While it might sound unlikely that there is a couple that does NOT take their wedding celebration seriously, from my own experience I can say for sure that there are plenty of celebrations, which where planned and done somewhat half-heatedly. This article is a warning to everybody, who might be doing the same mistake in the future.
Reasons for throwing a “non-serious” party
There are as a matter of fact several reasons, why a couple might choose to throw their wedding celebration in a “non-serious” way. An obvious one is money. If you can't go all in, you might be tempted to do a rather “symbolic” party, maybe only inviting the very close family to a pub-lunch or something similar. Other couples might question the institution of marriage as such and opt for an “alternative” celebration. Friends of mine for example organized a “spontaneous” celebration, where non of the guests knew that they were invited to a wedding beforehand. The result was disastrous and unfortunately the marriage is already under serious strains. The third kind of candidates for a “non-serious” party simply leaves the wedding organization till too late.
In all three cases the result is the same, a wedding celebration that is not enjoyable for various different reasons and that leaves the couple with the deep feeling of dissatisfaction. Unfortunately, this feeling lasts and there is no way to make it go away.
A once in a life-time chance
The wedding celebration as such is a very central and emotional event for the marriage of a couple. If your wedding was a disaster you will NOT forget it and there is no way to make up for it. This is very bad in itself, but to make things worse, your marriage will suffer from it as well. A successful wedding celebration lays a solid foundation for a successful marriage in several ways. Not only will the joyous memories of your most important “shared” day last a life time, but also will you gain enormous confidence in your relationship to each other from the fact that you have successfully organized such a difficult celebration together.
If, on the other hand, you have made a mess of your wedding celebration it will be hard to bounce back from it and it is a very bad start for your marriage, unless it was ruined by factors that where unforeseeable or out of your control. Your confidence in your partner and into the relationship as such will take serious damage. The whole outlook on the marriage will be a lot more negative and pessimistic, since things that have not started well are more prone to failure.
Celebrate your wedding properly
So, take your wedding seriously! Start organizing in time and do it thoroughly. If you have a small budget, make the most of it. Don't try to save money at all costs. If you have reservation regarding the very concept of marriage then better don't marry. You might be more likely to continue a happy relationship in a “wild” marriage. And remember, taking your wedding seriously also means making yourself extremely vulnerable. It is like walking around with a post-it attached to your forehead that says “This is the best I can do” and people will judge your efforts very critically. Still, it is worth giving it your best shot, because a lot is at stake.
Sophia Guggenheim is a studied graphic artist and wedding photo albums enthusiast. She is also the main author of the Sweet Memories Wedding Blog.
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