Modern-day media has promoted a myth that children need quality time. In particular mothers fall over themselves to make sure that everyday, everyone of their children gets some special mother time. Why doesn't the same mother make sure she gets the same time for herself?
Allowing quality time for parents is your family's investment in you.Children need to learn that parents need a time that is just theirs.
Unless parents are feeling that they have some time to themselves to make love, talk, plan, watch T.V. or just share a quiet moment, they are not going to be able to re-charge their batteries and be the parents their children want them to be.
Parents are encouraged to make sure they take responsibility to get the quality time that they deserve. Talk to your children no matter how young they are about how parents need time for themselves.
If necessary, use the television as a babysitter, but be careful about what is actually on the television for that time. Why don't you let your children watch a nature show that you have especially recorded for them? If you don't have a recorder, plan for parent time around a show that you do want your children to watch.
Children can feel their parents' tension. Be careful to manage your own upsets with stress management techniques such as exercise, meditation and deep breathing. Let's face it, even adults can get grumpy and irritable when we're overtired. Children who are difficult in the evening may be simply saying 'I need my bed.'
DON'T FALL ASLEEP IN FRONT OF THE TELEVISION
(If your children copy you it will be a lifetime problem for them).
HINTS TO HELP PARENTS TO SLEEP
Keep sleep a pure experience.
Keep your bedroom just for sleep.
Do not keep a T.V. in your bedroom.
Read sitting up, in a chair.
Dr Janet Hall is a Clinical Psychologist, Hypnotist, Author and Professional Speaker. She is the author of eight books on family and relationship issues including 'Sex-Wise Teens' and 'Sex-life Solutions'. She founded the Richmond Hill Psychology Clinic. www.drjanethall.com.au
Dr Jan featured regularly on the television program 'Sex Life' as their female sex therapist/advisor. Her 19 mps in the Sensational Sex Series frankly and informatively discuss sexual issues ranging from sex therapy using hypnosis, to advice on creating and sharing sexual fantasies, and strategies for sparking up your sex-life. www.sex-therapy.com.au
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